BDSM: Orgasm Play


Orgasm Play

 

BDSM: Orgasm Play

 

Without question, there are those involved in BDSM and D/s relationships in which sex is not an issue, so neither are orgasms, but for those who do include these elements orgasms can be a peak experience.

Most BDSM folk are familiar with orgasm denial as a play or scene element and know that the longer and stronger the “build up” or foreplay goes on the more intense the eventual orgasm can be.    Private or public orgasms strengthen the bonds between partners and often are the culmination of significant effort on the part of Dominants as a means of both control and pleasure for themselves and their submissives.

But orgasm denial along with forced chastity are only one side of the coin.  Shared, mutual orgasms are another element enhancing the sex between partners.  Not much is said about mutuality in that many BDSM or D/s relationships concentrate on one-way pleasuring by one partner on or to another.  Like sixty-nine or soixante-neuf, it’s not always easy to concentrate on pleasuring or being pleasured while simultaneously having the same done to you.  When successful, however, mutual orgasms, as in vanilla relationships, can be incredibly fulfilling and worth the extra effort.

Bound submissives, for example , with forethought in mind as to positioning, can masturbate,  the Dominant while being penetrated or orally stimulated themselves.  Dominants can also masturbate their partners while being serviced, either manually or with a toy.   And, of course, mutual orgasms can also be achieved in a variety of situations or conditions through penetrative and manually-stimulated sex.

Mutual masturbation is another topic in BDSM and D/s relationships that is not often written about or depicted.  This does not mean it doesn’t occur.

Because BDSM and D/s sexual episodes are often thought of or depicted with accessories and fetish items included, we sometimes lose sight of the power of spontaneity.  And yet, the spontaneous expression of sexual desire leading to mutual satisfaction takes us out of our feeling of routine and often seems “hotter”.  The spontaneous factor, effected at some unexpected time and/or place, adds to the sudden release of adrenaline and endorphins which both Dominants and submissives cite as “prime orgasms”.

While Dominants are most usually the initiators of sexual activity, certainly – without necessarily topping from the bottom – submissives can signal in a variety of ways their immediate want for sex.

Unless expressively forbidden, provocative posturing, clothing, ambient arrangement, mood music, texting or emails. Hand-written notes, etc. are tools for the submissive to indicate their desires to the Dominant.

Creative thinking is the key to enhancing and affecting mutual orgasms just as it is for planning out periods of orgasm denial or other orgasm play.  Let your imagination be your guide to the potential pleasures.

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3 Responses to “BDSM: Orgasm Play”

  1. TheOthers1 Says:

    That gif is distractingly arousing. It popped up on my reader and my eyes got big. As for the topic of mutual orgasm, it’s easy to see how it can be a bonding thing.

  2. Sorry for the distraction, ladies 🙂

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