Reposting an Oldie but Goodie

Yes, this is actually a reposting of a reposting.   But there’s a reason.  These words of wisdom get forgotten all the time.  For submissives, whether long-time veterans or neophytes, these should be printed out and posted on their refrigerator or bathroom mirror or marked prominently in their minds for frequent re-reading.  For Dominants, the same wisdom applies.  Know these recommendations and, when necessary, make sure your submissive understands and accepts them.

These words of wisdom for submissives was written by some unknown person and are frequently seen around the Internet.  They may prove helpful.

Responsibilities of a Submissive

  1. Never expect to have your Dominant live your life for you.
  2. Keep up with your own personal self-growth, a Dominant should not have to tell you how to grow, but be a guide on your journey. You are ultimately in charge of taking the right path.
  3. If you do not live with your Dominant, don’t expect him to know when your bills are due, pay the rent, or solve your drippy faucet problem. (Your Dominant will admire that you took care of it so responsibly!)
  4. Take care of your health. A Dominant expects a healthy submissive, one who cares about her body and mind. (No, this does not mean you have to be perfect, but you should be fit.)
  5. Don’t be afraid to let your Dominant know when you are having a bad day. It’s normal and happens to everyone. You should never have to worry that he will not understand, but neither should you make him into your own personal counselor.
  6. Listen to your gut. Most times, we avoid doing this as usually we are hearing something we would rather not believe, but putting off facing the truth, will only make for a longer, harder road to walk.
  7. If you don’t feel comfortable talking with your Dominant or a trustworthy friend, keep a journal. Track your own feelings and growth. Stagnancy is a killer.
  8. Never forget that as you serve your Dominant, you should also feel just as special and treasured in return. D/s is a two way street, you should be getting back as much as your are putting forth. If this is not the case, do not be afraid to journey alone for a time. Submission is not made or broken by having a Dominant.
  9. Be responsible for your own personal happiness. While our Dominants fulfill all those long unaddressed needs within ourselves to release control, serve to make another happy with our deeds, it does not mean we can stop looking inside, or that happiness is a given. We all make our own happiness, we shouldn’t rely on any other to make it for us. If you are unhappy with yourself, there is really no way you will make a pleasing submissive, for any Dominant worth his salt will recognize it within you. While he can point you in the right direction and accompany you on the road to growth, at the end of the day, you are still in command of your ability to be happy or unhappy. It may not be an easy journey to find happiness, but the end result will always make the effort to grow and evolve a wonderful one.

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